Whether you are attending a networking event or an employer is observing how you might conduct yourself with a potential client during a meal or a social situation, table manners and good behaviors are essential skills. Stand out as a professional by following some simple guidelines.
Practice makes perfect, or at least will keep your hands from shaking as you cut your meat.
The Basics
It is always better to stand and be ready to greet colleagues Keep one hand free for a handshake or to exchange business cards Make good eye contact, introducing yourself to the host/hostess Avoid approaching groups of two in deep conversation - Wait for a break to keep from interrupting! Ask people questions about themselves, the perfect ice-breaker! Always offer your contact information and make a graceful exit from conversations
Always be on time - on time is at least 5 minutes early Don't place any items on the table (bags, purse, wallet, cell phone) Good posture is key and keep those elbows off the table If you arrive with a suit jacket on, it stays on!
Not sure what utensil to use? Start from the outside and work your way in Don't waive utensils around when talking Rest your utensils on your plate rather than the table Put your napkin on your lap soon after being seated and place it in your chair if you leave the table and will be returning
Remember - This is not about the food! Relax, listen and participate in the conversation Don't order messy food or the most expensive item on the menu Avoid alcohol, even if the interviewer orders a drink Wait for everyone to be served before eating, unless the interviewer insists on you starting Pass food items to the right (bread, salad dressing) Spoon soup away from you and tear your bread into small pieces, only buttering the piece you are consuming Always taste your food before seasoning it
When finished, leave your plate(s) in position and do not push them aside or stack Lay your service-ware across the plate at 10:00 & 4:00 to indicate that you are finished with your meal Thank your host/hostess